Dreams and Sleep

Dreams have been described as “the window in to our soul”, but is there any value in exploring them? The short answer is most definitely “yes”.

Research shows that talking about a dream for approximately an hour “can result in “aha” moments for people”.  We also know that during the pandemic, according to the Lyon Neuroscience Centre, dream recall increased by up to 35%.

I have been fascinated by dreams all my life, and have worked professionally as a TV “Dream Expert” in the media.  As a therapist many of my clients have found it helpful to explore what their dreams and nightmares mean.

My new book – Answers in the Dark: Grief, Sleep and How Dreams Can Help You Heal looks at not only why we might be awake at night and what can help, but explores how our dreams can provide insights in to what’s really on our mind. It provides tips on interpreting your own dreams, as well as top tips for more refreshing sleep – even if you work shifts. It’s now available to pre-order on Amazon.  Use the button below to pre-order your copy.

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My new book is now available to pre-order. Visit the dedicated website for details or pre-order below.

On this page, you can find out more information about the professional services I provide.

PLEASE NOTE: My counselling waiting list is currently at capacity and I am not taking any new clients at this time. For useful links to organisations that may be able to help, click here. Events – including workshops and classes – are running as normal, and available online (see below). For details of forthcoming events, click here.

My services offer an integrated, holistic and tailored approach to help you find your way forward, and positively maintain and manage your mental health.  (If you’d like to know more about me first, click here).

Services include:

  • Workshops and Classes – including Mindfulness, Workplace Well-being, Mindful Leadership, Cultivating a Resilient Mindset, Mental Health Awareness, Sleep and Dreams, Stress and Anxiety Management, Peer Support, and Understanding Grief. Workshops can be tailored upon request from one hour to three hours. These are available online via Zoom. Teams and Google Meet; please ask for details.
  • Counselling – This approach may be helpful for anyone who wants help with depression, anxiety and stress management, or who has suffered a loss, bereavement or life changing experience. I work in an integrated, ‘person-centred’ way, which means I put clients at the heart of what I do, incorporating a number of different models and methods including CBT and Mindfulness. Prices start from £25; the first session (an initial consultation) is usually free. Due to the coronavirus outbreak, appointments are available via Zoom, or Google Meet. PLEASE NOTE: My counselling waiting list is currently at capacity and I am not taking any new clients at this time. For useful links to organisations that may be able to help, click here. Events – including workshops and classes – are running as normal, and available online (see below).
  • PR and Media appearances – for PR and media requests you can use the form below to get in touch. Click here to read about my TV and radio appearances.

Please note: Due to the number of requests I receive to interpret dreams free of charge, I’m unable to respond to each message individually. Please don’t use this form to request a dream interpretation.

Terms and conditions apply, see relevant pack for details.  Please note that packs can be withdrawn at any time, services are subject to availability.

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Women’s Wisdom: Defining your Legacy


Your legacy is every life you’ve touched.” ~ Maya Angelou

When Oprah Winfrey built a school in Africa she believed this was her moment. In conversation with her good friend, Maya Angelou, Oprah told her this school was her legacy.

Maya replied “You have no idea what your legacy is”. Oprah replied shyly, “I know, I know…but I need to think of this as my legacy”, to which Maya responded warmly, “Your legacy is every life you’ve touched”.

As women, we are so busy that we lose contact with the impact we have on the world. Many of us have a calling, to be in service to others, without realising the positive difference we are already making to those around us; friends, colleagues and family.  Acts of kindness, gestures of generosity, and compassion towards those we see in need.

This week’s Women’s Wisdom is to recognise your achievements for being there for others. Reward yourself for the kindnesses you have shown, and spend time defining your legacy. What message are you leaving the world, and future generations, through your words and actions now? Be kind to yourself and consider all that you already do, to be there for others.

Watch Oprah tell the story where Maya revealed this insight.

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Women’s Wisdom – Look challenges in the eye 

An empowered woman looks a challenge in the eye and gives it a wink“. ~ Source unknown. 

We have learned to resist. 

Pain. 

Change. 

Life. 

We push it away.  We have no time for it. We find it hard to sit in discomfort. It’s not, well…natural to do that. So we push it down, instead of out. 
What that means is that it sits inside us. Instead of meeting it, confronting it, it festers. It gets uncomfortable. And that, creates more pain. 

Set the intention to look the challenge in the eye. Find a way to deal with it, find your voice, build your negotiation skills, and meet it head on. Ask for help, reach out to people who can meet you half way, seek assistance from those “in the know”. And when you do, remember then you’ll be ready for anything. 

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Authenticity: Giving Yourself Permission to Be Quiet in a Noisy World

At a recent TEDx conference, Abbie Hutty, an inspiring, self-confessed Space Geek (and engineer involved in the development of the Mars Rover), said the key to being an effective role model is having the confidence to be authentic. That confidence doesn’t mean putting on a show for the sake of it. And that when your confidence is a façade you can alienate the very people you want to inspire.    

She described how as an introvert, although she can stand on a stage in front of hundreds of people, that in order to inspire a future generation of engineers (who statistically are usually introverts) it wouldn’t be helpful – or authentic – to pretend she was naturally confident. 

In fact, she was terrified.  This, she said, is why it’s so important to be real when trying to engage like-minded people.  If you pretend to be something you’re not, you won’t attract people like you. 

Your vibe attracts your tribe. 

There is an overwhelming expectation these days that we should all be extroverts. Loud, full of energy, standing at the front, ready for anything. 

If that’s your default setting, that’s absolutely fine.  For those that aren’t naturally built that way – but there is an expectation to behave that way – it’s exhausting.  (And incidentally how noisy a person is, isn’t a measure of how confident they are). 

I came across the acceptance of introversion in a book by Susan Cain called Quiet. Her book recognises that introversion is just as valid as extroversion, and that for some people (about 50% of the population) sitting quietly, reading a book under a tree is preferable than going to a live concert attended by 10,000 people. And I get it. It’s no coincidence that a lot of the work I do (like Mindfulness) involves peace and quiet.

That doesn’t mean introverts don’t like people (they generally do) but it does mean they don’t want to mislead anyone – and shouldn’t have to – by pretending they are feeling, being or doing something they’re not. 

Abbie described how being ordinary is okay, that being real is what makes us authentic and that being perfect isn’t what helps us succeed. In fact, she argues that pushing the limits of these things is the very thing that pushes results – and people – away.  

It’s okay to be quiet. 

What does authenticity mean to you?

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Women’s Wisdom – Tuning in to What We Need and What We Know

Women know. They just know. And even when you think they don’t know: they know. 

If you follow me on my Helping You Sparkle™ website which promotes positive mental health, you’ll know I already post Monday Mojo – feel-good motivation for the week ahead.  Monday Mojo offers the opportunity for anyone to set a weekly intention which can help focus their attention on something that will help them move towards their goal, even if it’s taking time to rest.

Women’s Wisdom will provide quotes, thoughts or reminders that we can tune in to what we need and what we know – encouraging positive health and wellbeing for women.

Our illnesses are designed to stop us in our tracks, make us rest, and bring our attention back to the things that are really important and that give our lives meaning and joy…

Dr Christine Northrup

As women, we know what it’s like to try to be all things to all people. To try and keep going, whilst keeping everyone happy and wearing a smile.  But this approach can create conflict in the end, especially when we realise our own needs aren’t being met – and haven’t been for some time. It can also mean we lose our sense of self, e.g. who we are, what we want and what we enjoy, and become unsynchronised, if not forget, our innate wisdom which keeps us well.

These posts (and related services) will tackle issues which predominantly affect women’s mental health, as well as focusing on topics which can improve and enhance a sense of wellbeing – things like tuning in to different cycles which can influence how we feel.  The purpose: to enable an authentic sense of what it really means to be a woman, to feel worthy and well, with a right to be heard in a 21st century world that won’t slow down.

Join me on Facebook and Twitter or subscribe for weekly Women’s Wisdom direct to your inbox every Wednesday – positive messages for empathic, awakening women – to motivate and inspire.


#womenswisdom #womensworth #wonderwomen #womenshealth

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It’s Time to Change: why we need a new approach to Mental Health 

I have worked, in one form or another, as a mental health professional for 15 years, focusing on supporting people who want to understand and make a positive difference on the subject. 

I’ve worked with local and national charities, sat on area management committees, and attended service user councils which tried to decide the future of services based on the money they had available.  

I’ve delivered training on mental health and bereavement awareness to private and corporate clients. I’ve worked in telephone and face-to-face support with grieving clients bereaved by murder and suicide, and I’ve attended Coroner’s Court supporting those distraught and vulnerable people through a process no one ever chose to experience. 

I provide talking therapies and wellbeing training to clients, who have taken positive steps to improve their mental health. I’ve facilitated all-day training and micro-sessions to volunteers and large organisations who see the benefit of promoting mental health and wellness in the work place and community. Every one of those people saw the benefits of understanding themselves and other people’s mental health better.  

For some clients events often beyond their control, created terrifying, dark or seemingly unmanageable emotions, which may have led to choices that didn’t work for them, circumstances which escalated their problems, and in some cases drastic measures which finally enabled the help they needed.  

Everyone I have ever worked with therapeutically – without exception – is an important individual with a right to be heard.  In many cases, they were trying their absolute best to keep everyone else happy, whilst putting their own physical and mental health at the bottom of their own priority list.  

My clients just want help: to see the wood for the trees, to find hope of a better life, to get even an hour’s sleep, a moment’s peace, or a short period of respite from this noisy world that won’t slow down.  They don’t mind paying for it although for as long as they’re available I also signpost to free services, just so people know that free help is out there.  Currently. 

My clients could never be described as “selfish” or “scroungers”.  No one was looking for sympathy.  No one was a “nutter”.  And yet this seems to be the culture we’ve adopted around Mental Health. 

Insanity is not what you think it is. 

Insanity is living in a society which still treats people with poor mental health as outcasts. It’s the assumption that “it can’t happen to me” (it can), that everyone who has depression is a drug-addict (no that’s not true), and that everyone who tries to kill themselves is an attention-seeker (some people do believe that, but that’s absolutely not the case). Insanity is the belief that people with schizophrenia are dangerous, when statistically they are more likely to be a victim of crime.

Insanity is having to wait 3-6 months (if not longer) for professional help, when the person who has finally plucked up the courage to ask for it desperately needs it now. 


As Ruby Etc so beautiful drew in this image of the mental health support system, insanity is the fact that in this country you have to be the “correct amount of mad” to get help. If you’re not “mad enough”, there’s no support and if you’re “too mad” there’s nothing more they can do.  

Insanity is having to wait 3-6 months (if not longer) for professional help, when the person who has finally plucked up the courage to ask for it desperately needs it now.  

It is the fact that, according to the Mental Health Foundation, only 13% of people report living with high levels of mental health in the UK. That suicide is the leading cause of death for men under the age of 45, and that 61 million prescriptions for anti-depressants were written in the UK last year. 

It is also the fact that the country’s mental health is deteriorating rapidly and yet vital services are being pulled away from clients who have no where else to go, due to “lack of funding”. Insanity is that for every £1 the government contributes towards Cancer Research (and which the public add another £2.75), only a third of a penny (yes, less than 1p) goes on mental health.

Charities are being forced to become businesses to ensure they can continue to help the very people they were established to support. They can’t rely on funding from government or local authorities anymore. As well as providing an essential service, they have to find money through incessant fundraising, apply for grants via lengthy bidding processes, attend “reassurance” meetings which measure “outcomes”, and then fight for it all again months later.  They even have to battle against each other for votes in competitions for tiny sums of money so they can keep helping. 

It’s exhausting. 

And more than anything else, it’s not working.

Service users are being lost in these processes.  

Whilst many charities aim to keep their clients at the heart of what they do, they are becoming bogged down in bureaucratic processes which take the focus away from the very reason they were established in the first place.  And the irony is, if these charities didn’t exist – in many cases with professionally trained volunteers providing core services by giving their time for free – the cost to the government to deliver these services with paid staff, would be astronomical and overwhelming. Where would they get the money from then?

The focus needs to change. 

There needs to be a shift in how services are funded – and measured – at both a national and local level.   Mental Health is not a start point and an end point – it is a continuum, a complex nature of movement with a myriad of changes based on any number of factors in any given day, month or year. 

And society’s view of mental health needs to change.  Charities like Mind, Rethink, the Mental Health Foundation, Heads Together, Time to Change, Calm Zone, Samaritans, Young Minds, Combat Stress, Cruse Bereavement Care and many more are working tirelessly to do just that. 

Can you help?  Here are some ideas:

1) Offering your time as a volunteer is a great way to raise awareness. I also encourage clients I’ve worked with to use their experiences to become a champion for Mental Health and keep the conversations going with friends and family. It’s ok to say. 

2) Raising awareness locally by holding an open day, coffee morning or event in aid of your chosen charity will ensure services can continue.  

3) And making sure, whichever way you vote, that the manifesto includes education and support for positive mental health. 

Thank you for reading. 

The views expressed are my own and not necessarily those of organisations I have worked with. 

Life is not a journey, it’s a dance

Alan Watts, a famous philosopher and speaker in the 70’s, recognised that from the moment we are born it seems like we are in a race these days. 

We are pushed through different levels of education (nursery, primary, secondary, University), then into work … and then we “work our way up” a career ladder, if that’s what we set out to do.  

But what are we racing towards?  

We have long approached life as a journey, but if that’s true – what is the destination? Our goal in life is surely not to say at the end of our days “Phew I lived longer than I thought I would”. 

And yet somehow we have created an illusion that we are aiming for somewhere or something. But what is that?

If the whole point of a piece of music was to reach the end, we’d have the shortest Ed Sheeran songs in history. And when we dance, we aren’t dancing so that we reach the end of the song. We are participating, enjoying, being part of something which matters. 

So maybe life, then, is not a journey. And it’s not the destination that matters. Life is perhaps the dance, something we enjoy whilst it’s happening. The whole point of dancing, IS the dance. 

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International Women’s Day: Be Bold for Change

It’s International Women’s Day and the theme this year is Be Bold for Change. 

As a Women’s Advocate and qualified Therapist I raise awareness of issues which predominantly affect women, like Domestic Abuse and Pregnancy Mental Health

As part of this year’s campaign, I’m asking if people will wear something bold in the name of all those who have been affected by these issues and to celebrate the voice that women have – and that we ALL have – to make positive change. To be bold and be seen. 

I believe we can work together towards a fair world, where we can all be safe and heard. So men are invited to wear something bold aswell. 

Be safe. Be heard. Be Bold for Change on 8th March 2017, and every day. 

For more information about International Women’s Day visit http://internationalwomensday.com 

For information about Pregnancy Mental Health visit http://pregnancymentalhealth.net

If you or someone you know is affected by Domestic Abuse visit http://Refuge.org.uk

Wear your Tiara to Work Day 16th March 2017 

In her book “A Woman in Your Own Right”, Anne Dickson describes how as a woman you feel “a sense of obligation to put everyone else’s needs before your own all the time”. Even today, in a world striving for equality, women still feel they have to do ALL THE THINGS (work/home life, caring for family, paying bills, and so on) and  if we don’t, we feel guilty.  Wow, do we feel that guilt. 

In fact, one of the reasons I came up with the idea for Serenity (a monthly evening gathering exclusively for busy women in Milton Keynes) was to help women carve time out of their busy schedules for some guilt-free rest and relaxation. Because self-care isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. 

So “Wear your Tiara to Work Day” on 16th March 2017, celebrates women who are busy doing ALL THE THINGS and to encourage them to do something for themselves today (if not every day) to help them feel sparkly – something that helps them recognise and celebrate just how awesome they are. Men are welcome to celebrate too, either in honour of a woman they know who deserves to be celebrated or if as a man, you’re also busy trying to keep many balls in the air (no pun intended).  

The day is about doing something for yourself: having a cup of tea, a well earned rest even just for a few minutes, or treating yourself to something sparkly. Like a Tiara. 

We will be sharing photos on my Facebook Page, Instagram and Twitter using the hashtags #TiaraDay and #WorkTiara – please feel share your images on Social Media. 


Ps International Tiara Day – celebrating inner beauty – is on 24th May 2017 so we will do it all again then. Because, well, you can wear your Tiara as often as you want. 

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