COVID Dreams

Since the beginning of the Coronavirus outbreak, people have been reporting that they’re remembering more vivid and disturbing dreams. According to the Lyon Neuroscience Centre’s research, our dream recall is up 35%. So what’s going on?

Because many of us are working from home, avoiding the morning commute right now, we might be sleeping in a bit longer. We know that the more sleep we have, the more dreaming we can achieve; we also understand that you’re more likely to remember the dream you have just before you wake up, especially if it’s troubling.

What types of COVID dreams are people having?

Everyone is different but COVID dreams appear to have some themes so far.

Insects

A radio presenter told me recently on air, that she’d had a dream where maggots were on her face. The following day, a journalist called me to say loads of people she’s speaking to are having dreams about creepy crawlies.  

Pre-covid and depending on your hobbies (like fishing for example), a dream about maggots might be about someone taking the bait.  

But in the COVID era, it’s also important to look at other metaphors. When we look at the language we use around insects, ie bugs this can align with the way we talk of a virus, e.g. you might say you “have a bug”. If you have an understandable fear and anxiety of catching coronavirus, then it makes sense you’d have a dream where insects are too close for comfort.

It might not be COVID related though. It could also be at the time of the dream, someone or something is “bugging” you.

On a much lighter note, insects like bees and butterflies are often seen as positive (for example around leadership, or transformation respectively), so again it helps to take the content of your dream into context with what’s happening in your life at the time – I always ask the questions “why this, and why now?” Keeping a dream diary can help you notice if these types of insects appear regularly, which can help you explore the meaning if it’s a recurring dream. 

How you feel about the insect is also key: eg., were you scared, or were you irritated in the dream? Do you like that type of insect, or do they make you anxious? All of this is worth considering when exploring your own dream. (If you’ve been stung by a bee or other insect in real life for example, how you feel about that will matter too).

Hands

People may also be having dreams which align with the government messaging. Someone I spoke with recently said their hands were dirty in the dream and couldn’t get them clean. With so much messaging telling us we need to be washing our hands regularly, it makes sense this would manifest in a dream this way. Incidentally, pre-COVID a dream about hands is often about the work we do (and our ability to do it). For example, we would say someone may “need to get their hands dirty” if we think they’re not pulling their weight.

Death

Whilst we are hearing so much about the impact of COVID-19 and daily death tolls around the world, it makes sense if the subject of our own mortality comes to the surface, alongside any worries about people we love. It’s natural then, to dream about our fear of death or something which represents that. People working in healthcare and particularly hospitals right now, are being faced with this reality on a daily basis. Worrying “am I doing enough?” can also play out in an anxiety dream like this. It’s important to engage in regular acts of self care and reassure yourself you’re doing all that you realistically can to help others.

Like any dream or nightmare, its worth talking about it with someone who will listen. Research from Swansea now supports that telling someone about the dream you have can help in many ways. It doesn’t have to be a professional exploration; a close friend or family member that you trust might help you make sense of it all.

If you are worried about your health and well-being, especially if it’s affecting your sleep, always speak to your doctor or healthcare team.

I talk about this and more,in my book Answers in the Dark.

Copyright Delphi Ellis 2021

About Delphi

I am a qualified counsellor, well-being trainer and author of Answers In The Dark: Grief, Sleep and How Dreams Can Help You Heal. My community work is aimed at helping people find what I call their ‘mojo’ (purpose or motivation) and get their sparkle back, often during or after a difficult time in their lives.

I have designed and delivered bespoke bereavement awareness and well-being training nationally, to public sector services including police officers, nurses, paramedics and search and rescue teams. I also provide Mindful Leadership Training and wellness programmes to international corporate clients. I have a special interest in dreams and sleep, appearing on TV shows like ITV’s This Morning and Loose Women. (You can find out more about this further down the page).

My mission is to help enhance the well-being of others through compassionate education, and fostering community connections with wholehearted dialogue that facilitates meaningful change. I believe in human potential and, through the extensive involvement I’ve had facilitating peer support, I trust in the ability of communities working together to help create a more enlightened society.

I follow a Buddhist way of life.

Answers In The Dark is available on Amazon and Hive

Professional Career

I started my therapeutic career in 2002, where I began supporting those bereaved by murder and suicide, including attending inquests at coroner’s court. I have also worked across the private, public and third sectors including in a FTSE100 company, a national charity and in the NHS, in management and leadership roles.

Peer Support

In 2004, I established a unique website and peer support group dedicated to Pregnancy Mental Health, following my own experiences. As a result, I featured in several popular magazines on this topic, including Pregnancy and Birth and Natural Health magazines, and featured on radio programmes like Radio 4’s Women’s Hour. (You can see a full list of tv and media appearances below).

Later, I led a peer mentoring service for three years with a well-known mental health charity, offering relevant training to volunteers and helping establish the goals of those using the service.

During the pandemic I also ran a bereavement peer support group for grieving people and set up A Grief Note™ on Twitter.

Charity Work

I volunteer for an organisation that supports grieving people often bereaved by murder or suicide. I also give my time for free as an Independent Advisor and Community Ambassador for national conversations that focus on ending male violence against women and girls including domestic abuse. I chose this work for reasons close to my heart and I explain why I think we need this conversation here. The national domestic abuse helpline in the U.K. is 0808 2000 247.

I also volunteer with a local emergency response team, providing emotional support as needed in the event of a major incident.

I also work for a charity in my spare time that transports patients with cancer to hospital for their treatment, that won the Queens Award for Voluntary Service.

Qualifications and Training

My qualifications are in Therapeutic Counselling, Delivering Adult Learning and Management and Leadership. I am also a Mental Health First Aider and authentically trained in Mindfulness. I ensure I engage with continuing professional development throughout the year, so that the learning I provide remains up to date. 

I also trained with the National Homicide Service, Victim Support and Women’s Aid. I am accredited to work with victims of crime, including those escaping domestic abuse.

TV and Media Appearances

I have enjoyed many TV and media appearances talking about the subjects I am passionate about, including dreams and healthy sleep. You can view an expanded list of media appearances below:

Radio:

BBC Radio: BBC Radio 2, BBC Radio 1 Xtra, BBC WM, BBC Hereford and Worcester, BBC Coventry, BBC Three Counties, BBC Radio 6 with George Lamb, BBC Suffolk Breakfast Show, BBC Radio Cambridgeshire Drive Time, BBC Radio Leeds Drive Time, BBC Tees, BBC Radio Shropshire, BBC Radio Scotland, BBC Radio 4, Woman’s Hour, BBC London with Sunny & Shay and on the Eddie Nestor show, Talk Sport, Beacon Radio, Hallam FM, Original 106 FM, Gemini FM, WLR FM, XFM, The Psychic Show (LBC 97.3), My Spirit Radio, Bridge Radio, Red FM, Talk Radio (Europe)

Television:

Loose Women, ITV’s This Morning, DayBreak (Presenter of The Guide to Sleep), GMTV, The Wright Stuff, LK Today (Lorraine), Consultant to SO Television for My Lovely Audience (Graham Norton), Psychic TV

Book(s)

Answers In The Dark is available on Amazon and Hive

I am the author of Answers In The Dark: Grief, Sleep and How Dreams Can Help You Heal. The book aims to join the dots between our sleep, dreams and our mental health, specifically how grief shows up even if no one has died. It explores some of the big myths of sleep, offers a Sleep Cycle Repair Kit and some tips on how to decode your own dreams.

I am currently working on a second b

Podcasts:

I have featured on a number of podcasts for the promotion of my book. For a full list visit here.

Featured work

Natural Health, In Style Magazine, Glamour Magazine, Daily Express, Practical Parenting & Pregnancy Magazine, Soul & Spirit magazine, Huffington Post, Guardian (G2), Sunday Express, Pregnancy, Baby & You, Daily Express, Daily Telegraph, Pregnancy & Birth magazine, Prima Baby magazine, Practical Parenting, Columnist for Spirit & Destiny Magazine, Contributor to Talk Mum, Contributor to Silent Voices, Columnist for Spirit Force Magazine, Mens Health magazine

PR Events

Dreams Bed Company, Maybelline New York, Sky + HD (article featured in Daily Telegraph), Johnson’s Beauty: Dreamy Skin, Snow Leopard Trust

Find out more about Delphi’s weekly newsletter – Monday Mojo™ – offering insight, inspiration and intention for the week ahead here

Awards

  • Volunteer of the Year Cohesion Award for services to the community;
  • Nomination: “Women Who Keep Bedfordshire Safer”;
  • Regional Finalist for the Health and Social Care Awards for Mental Health and Wellbeing;
  • Spiritual Connextions Awards for Best Service to Others

Monday Mojo™

I am the creator of Monday Mojo™ – A weekly email that’s been sent to inboxes since 2017, containing feel-good motivation for the week ahead. Sign up here.

Subscribe to Monday Mojo™

With Delphi’s help, I have a new perspective on life and the strength to face new and challenging things in a positive way.” B.

© Delphi Ellis, Helping You Sparkle™ 2021

Let’s Talk Lady Business

Women often face challenges that are difficult to talk about in public because we’ve been trained – and shamed – to keep these conversations to ourself. Saying “I’ve got my period” for example is still taboo, and women and girls are suffering as a result.

Research by Plan International UK shows that one in 10 girls have been unable to afford period products and 48% are embarrassed talking about their periods. Period poverty isn’t about not being able to afford branded products; in the UK the research shows some women and girls can’t afford even the cheapest.

As Red Box Project pointed out on Twitter in this vital thread, there are a number of other reasons why girls may not have access to period products at home, including living with domestic abuse.

Women living in domestic abuse may have a partner who confiscates their pads or tampons as a means to control them and other females in the house.  Because they are embarrassed to talk about it, these women and girls miss school or work.

Thankfully these organisations including Bloody Good Period and Street Cramps are working hard to break the stigma. Charities like Refuge can also help support those affected by Domestic Abuse.

To help improve the conversation I use social media to encourage healthy conversation where challenges for women exist, especially around topics like pregnancy mental health, domestic abuse and menstrual health so that we can create meaningful change that lasts. I also run peer support groups for women to help explore the challenges we face and what helps. To find out more about me and what I do click here.

© Delphi Ellis All rights reserved 2019 – Article updated May 2021

What’s in a Dream?

Dreams have been described as “the window in to our soul”, but is there any value in exploring them? The short answer is most definitely “yes”.

Research shows that talking about a dream for approximately an hour “can result in “aha” moments for people”.  We also know that during the pandemic, according to the Lyon Neuroscience Centre, dream recall increased by up to 35%.

I have been fascinated by dreams all my life, and have worked professionally as a TV “Dream Expert” in the media.  As a therapist many of my clients have found it helpful to explore what their dreams and nightmares mean.

Available to Order on Amazon

Book Release

My book – Answers in the Dark: Grief, Sleep and How Dreams Can Help You Heal looks at not only why we might be awake at night and what can help, but explores how our dreams can provide insights in to what’s really on our mind.

It provides tips on interpreting your own dreams, as well as top tips for more refreshing sleep – even if you work shifts.

It’s now available to on Amazon. Click here to order your copy.

© Copyright Delphi Ellis 2006 – 2021

16 Days of Action to Stop Violence Against Women

Go Orange as part of the 16 Days of Action! From 25 November – the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women – to 10 December, Human Rights Day – the 16 Days of Action against Gender-Based Violence Campaign is a time to make a stand to end violence against women and girls around the world. 

For more information you can also visit:

UN Women: http://www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/ending-violence-against-women/take-action/16-days-of-activism

What is Consent? https://www.disrespectnobody.co.uk/consent/what-is-consent/

16 Days of Action: http://16daysofaction.co.uk

Men can also show their support in many ways including taking part in White Ribbon Day on 25th November. For more information visit https://www.whiteribbon.org.uk/shop/

Worldwide, 1 in 3 Women have experienced physical or sexual violence, mostly by an intimate partner. Source: http://interactive.unwomen.org/multimedia/infographic/violenceagainstwomen/en/index.html#intimate-3

If you or someone you know is affected by domestic abuse, the National DA Helpline is 0808 2000 247

Women are rising, people are listening – so what happens next?

Authors note: This article contains information about sexual assault. 

With recent events unfolding in Hollywood, women are rising under the hashtag #MeToo and having their voices heard for the first time in a very long time.

The world is beginning to appreciate the sheer scale of sexism and misogyny in the 21st Century (which Laura Bates had already evidenced in her book ‘Everyday Sexism’).

Importantly, people – men and women – are listening to each other; what’s being said is literally changing lives, and creating a new platform for equality. 

It’s an amazing shift. I’ve written before that it’s a wonderful time to be alive as woman.  So what happens next? Is there potential to steward this movement, keep it alive and moving in the right direction?

The World will be saved by the Western Woman.  The Dalai Lama

Maybe it’s starts with continuing to hold space for each other.  I don’t just mean women; men are coming forward to talk about their own experiences of being abused, as well as supporting women who are sharing.   It presents an opportunity to unify so that we are all being heard and taking positive action to support each other’s equal human rights.

One clear message is to stay focused on those being held to account. When a perpetrator comes under the spotlight, there is a tendency to turn our attention towards the victims/survivors – who they were, and understanding what happened.  The #MeToo hashtag has seen overwhelming support of women who felt able to share their experiences of sexism, harassment and sexual assault.

But because of this, the pendulum can swing away from the perpetrators and on to the victims. This can happen negatively, with some judging women as if they were somehow to blame. Of course, that’s not true.

Here are some statistics you might already know:

Trigger warning ⚠️  Information about sexual assault:

• Approximately 88,000 women and 12,000 men are raped in England and Wales every year. This is increasing ( ^ 19% on the previous year).

• That works out at about 11 rapes (of adults) every hour (or roughly every six minutes).

• The majority of women are raped by someone they know. Many in their own home. And on a regular basis by their partner.

• Rape is not about sexual gratification. It’s about control and humiliation.

• Only 15% of women who are raped will report it to police. Much of this is most likely due to society’s view that she somehow brought it on herself.

• A person who has been raped is NOT to blame. Ever. If we spoke to rapists the way we speak to women about “rape prevention” it would look like the (deliberately ironic) list of suggestions in the image below. What a woman wears or how much she has had to drink, is not an invitation to rape.

Information source: Home Office

Harvey Weinstein won’t always be in the news. But as long as information about sexual assault and harassment is currently in the spotlight, it’s important we keep our energy focused on the perpetrators taking responsibility for their actions, and on supporting the victims/survivors.


It’s also essential that we support any decision for victims to come forward, whilst respecting those who feel they can’t at this time.

If you or someone you know has been affected, you can search Sexual Assault Referral Centre to receive free and confidential information or contact agencies like Victim Support and Refuge. You don’t have to have reported it to the police to make contact with these services.

Keep the conversation going.

Copyright Delphi Ellis

Spiritual Activism : why love doesn’t mean you have to like someone

Someone I’ve known for a long time was recently accused of ‘preaching’ because he asked a community to remain calm, kind and peaceful during a spree of vandalism in the neighbourhood.d

No one was hurt during these incidents, and it transpired that young children were responsible. Despite their young age, several residents in the community said that, if the children were caught, neighbours would (and I quote) “break their legs” for the damage they caused.

My friend insisted the police should be notified of the vandalism, and called for measured action amongst the residents. He reminded them there was more to what happened than just kids running riot.  He maintained there must be a reason children would behave this way, and it was the cause that needed to be addressed, not just the actions.

He wasn’t saying the children’s actions shouldn’t be understood, and it’s important the children were spoken with appreciate why they did what they did.   But, he emphasised, “teaching them a lesson” could not – and would not – involve any form of abuse, and anyone suggesting violence as a solution would be reported.

Needless to say, my friend was surprised that his good intentions had been received so negatively. We wondered how a society would perceive his plight to protect the children from being “lynched” (their words) and interpreted his stance as a sign of weakness, interference and, as one woman put it, “silliness”. The residents  maintained they were right, and that my friend was wrong.

In the wake of the incidents in Charlottesville, and the powerful speech given by Susan Bro in the video below, I was reminded of our duty to challenge wrongful behaviour.  Bro is the mother of Heather Heyer who was murdered during those protests.  She appealed to us that we should explicitly call into question those who insist on creating a divide.

Is it possible to understand behaviour peacefully, and open dialogue with people whose actions and beliefs are directly opposite to our own values? Can we – and should we – truly love someone who causes hurt, or whose opinions are so far removed from our own; who won’t even contemplate that there is another point of view?

As part of my work, I raise awareness of issues which predominantly affect the mental health of women, including those escaping Domestic Abuse.  It’s a challenge for anyone – including me – to feel compassion for those who wilfully and often severely harm another.  As someone who also follows a Buddhist way of life, I have battled with the concept that I must show kindness to all, even those who behave so badly. Don’t I have to like everyone? As it turns out, no I don’t.


I was heartened  to read this article in Lions Roar about spiritual activism, which explains how love doesn’t mean you have to like someone.

In the article, both Sharon Salzberg and Revd. angel Kyodo williams recognise that we naturally resist the idea of loving someone, especially if they’re the cause of our pain.

The suggestion that we should show compassion to someone unkind may seem ridiculous under those circumstances, and it feels almost intuitive to fight that idea.

I’ve seen this resistance for myself. When I have tried to encourage a more compassionate and loving approach in others, when they only see the bad in people around them, I’ve been told I’m the one who is wrong. 

I’ve been told emphatically that power is what’s needed, and that the definition of power is to ‘show them who’s boss’.  I still maintain it’s not.

“Facing the reality of this suffering, we remember that peacefulness does not mean passiveness and non-attachment does not mean non-engagement.”  Lions Roar

Naturally, there is an aversion to loving someone when we really don’t agree with what they say, they have hurt us deeply, and we really don’t like them at all. And the article cited explains that’s absolutely fine.

What matters – and only if the time feels right – is to consider that a person who has caused pain didn’t reach that point without a lifetime of experiences.  This is not to excuse their hurtful behaviour (although many see it that way, or struggle with the concept), but to be free of our own suffering, we must acknowledge someone isn’t born to hurt – they’re taught. In the same way, we can consider the possibility that in order for us to be okay, we don’t have to forgive anyone if it doesn’t feel like it would help.

No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite. ~ Nelson Mandela

For whatever reason, circumstances brought them to a place where they chose different, unhealthier, coping mechanisms and behaviours to your own. There is a cause to their negative behaviour which ultimately only they can address and be responsible for.

It doesn’t mean we endorse, support, collude, encourage, allow, or live alongside harmful behaviour.  A person must be held accountable for the poor, dangerous and devastating choices they make, and the consequences they have.  It also doesn’t suggest we make it our job to ‘fix’ the person we believe is ‘wrong’, or that we get to decide what their ‘punishment’ is. As Elizabeth Gilbert once quoted, we can love everyone but some we must love from a safe distance.

This is where spiritual activism comes in.

Spiritual activism is a commitment to safely educating – if we choose – about accountability, connection and empathy (amongst other things) through peaceful and compassionate actions, including dialogue.

That doesn’t mean it’s passive. It doesn’t mean it involves sitting back and letting the world implode. What it does mean is challenging harmful behaviour, whilst realising there is a much bigger picture. It’s about recognising that you don’t have to pick a side and then blindly stick to it.

Just as you can change your mind about how you vote, you can decide what causes or campaigns you support.  It’s not self-righteous judgement or “preaching” to encourage a peaceful world to live in for all of us. It’s not ‘negative’ to address someone’s hateful behaviour towards another human being, if you challenge it in a positive way with good intentions.  And that every action has a consequence.

“Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries?

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
’Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own backyard.”
~ Maya Angelou, poet and activist

It’s about treating the cause of a problem, rather than managing the symptoms, compassionately.

As Sharon Salzberg reminds us, “The Buddha told a king, “You should be just, you should be fair, and you should be generous.” But the king forgot to be generous and so people started going hungry and they started stealing. Then the Buddha said to the king, “The point is not to start making laws against theft. The point is to look at why people are hungry.”

So in the case of Charlottesville, Paris, Manchester, Barcelona, Syria and all the other places around the world where we have seen death and devastating destruction we, as compassionate humans, have to ask why these events keep happening, rather than just treat the symptoms they create.

In the case of my friend, he had a valid point.  It turned out that the children responsible for the recent vandalism were ‘acting out’ because their father was struggling with poor mental health and had turned to alcohol as a coping mechanism. He and the children are now being supported through various agencies.

There is nothing “silly” about reaching out to people in an effort to understand their pain, as long as we maintain healthy, safe boundaries and a compassionate approach to the solutions available. And, of course, those individuals must take responsibility for the damage they’ve caused.   In the case of children, leading by positive example and teaching them the value of empathy (how would they feel if, as an adult, someone damages their property?), is one place to start.  It makes forgiveness possible.

If someone behaves ‘badly’ we can find a way to articulate that without matching hate with hate, and starting the cycle of revenge. We can recognise the cause of their behaviour without making it our problem. If we want to offer help or be there during their recovery we can, but sometimes just showing someone there is another way can be useful.  Remember though, only they can transform and heal their life by wanting better for themselves and others.

What if we opened a meaningful and peaceful dialogue, where we choose being kind over being right, and our goal is a peaceful outcome for everyone.  As Waylon Lewis says, let’s disagree agreeably.

One person can change the world, by giving people hope, so if you want to change the world…step up when the times are the toughest, face down the bullies, lift up the down-trodden, and never, ever give up… if you do these things, the next generation and the generations that follow will live in a far better world than the one we have today, and what started here will indeed have changed the world for the better. ~ William H. McRaven

_________________________________

If you or someone you know may be – or thinks they are – in an abusive relationship, organisations like Refuge can help.  You can call their freephone helpline 24 hours a day on 0808 2000 247. 

Copyright Delphi Ellis, updated 2021

Dreams and Sleep

Dreams have been described as “the window in to our soul”, but is there any value in exploring them? The short answer is most definitely “yes”.

Research shows that talking about a dream for approximately an hour “can result in “aha” moments for people”.  We also know that during the pandemic, according to the Lyon Neuroscience Centre, dream recall increased by up to 35%.

I have been fascinated by dreams all my life, and have worked professionally as a TV “Dream Expert” in the media.  As a therapist many of my clients have found it helpful to explore what their dreams and nightmares mean.

Available to Order on Amazon

Book Release

My new book – Answers in the Dark: Grief, Sleep and How Dreams Can Help You Heal looks at not only why we might be awake at night and what can help, but explores how our dreams can provide insights in to what’s really on our mind.

It provides tips on interpreting your own dreams, as well as top tips for more refreshing sleep – even if you work shifts.

It’s now available to order on Amazon.  

© Copyright Delphi Ellis 2006 – 2021

Online Resources and Shop

Available on Amazon

Book Release!

My new book Answers in the Dark: Grief, Sleep and How Dreams Can Help You Heal aims to join the dots between our sleep, dreams and our mental health; specifically, how grief shows up even if no one has died.

It explores some of the big myths of sleep, offers a Sleep Cycle Repair Kit including mindfulness activities and top tips on how to decode your own dreams. You can visit the dedicated website here or order on Amazon.

On this page, you can find out more information about the professional services I provide.

PLEASE NOTE: My counselling waiting list is currently at capacity and I am not taking any new clients at this time. For useful links to organisations that may be able to help, click here. Events – including workshops and classes – are running as normal, and available online (see below). For details of forthcoming events, click here.

My services offer an integrated, holistic and tailored approach to help you find your way forward, and positively maintain and manage your mental health.  (If you’d like to know more about me first, click here).

Digital Products

52 Weeks of Mindfulness” – a carefully crafted eGuide providing 52 suggested activities to bring more mindfulness in to every day life. Available in .pdf format. Price: £4.99.

Services include:

  • Workshops and Classes – including Mindfulness, Workplace Well-being, Mindful Leadership, Cultivating a Resilient Mindset, Mental Health Awareness, Sleep and Dreams, Stress and Anxiety Management, Peer Support, and Understanding Grief. Workshops can be tailored upon request from one hour to three hours. These are available online via Zoom. Teams and Google Meet; please ask for details.
  • Counselling – This approach may be helpful for anyone who wants help with depression, anxiety and stress management, or who has suffered a loss, bereavement or life changing experience. I work in an integrated, ‘person-centred’ way, which means I put clients at the heart of what I do, incorporating a number of different models and methods including CBT and Mindfulness. Prices start from £25; the first session (an initial consultation) is usually free. Due to the coronavirus outbreak, appointments are available via Zoom, or Google Meet. PLEASE NOTE: My counselling waiting list is currently at capacity and I am not taking any new clients at this time. For useful links to organisations that may be able to help, click here. Events – including workshops and classes – are running as normal, and available online (see below).
  • PR and Media appearances – for PR and media requests you can use the form below to get in touch. Click here to read about my TV and radio appearances.

Please note: Due to the number of requests I receive to interpret dreams free of charge, I’m unable to respond to each message individually. Please don’t use this form to request a dream interpretation.

Terms and conditions apply, see relevant pack for details.  Please note that packs can be withdrawn at any time, services are subject to availability.

© Copyright Delphi Ellis

Women’s Wisdom: Defining your Legacy


Your legacy is every life you’ve touched.” ~ Maya Angelou

When Oprah Winfrey built a school in Africa she believed this was her moment. In conversation with her good friend, Maya Angelou, Oprah told her this school was her legacy.

Maya replied “You have no idea what your legacy is”. Oprah replied shyly, “I know, I know…but I need to think of this as my legacy”, to which Maya responded warmly, “Your legacy is every life you’ve touched”.

As women, we are so busy that we lose contact with the impact we have on the world. Many of us have a calling, to be in service to others, without realising the positive difference we are already making to those around us; friends, colleagues and family.  Acts of kindness, gestures of generosity, and compassion towards those we see in need.

This week’s Women’s Wisdom is to recognise your achievements for being there for others. Reward yourself for the kindnesses you have shown, and spend time defining your legacy. What message are you leaving the world, and future generations, through your words and actions now? Be kind to yourself and consider all that you already do, to be there for others.

Watch Oprah tell the story where Maya revealed this insight.

Copyright Delphi Ellis

%d bloggers like this: