My nightmares are normal. Let me tell you why (and why yours might be too)

⚠️ Note to the reader: This article contains references to trauma, triggers, domestic abuse and male violence, and may include some broad descriptions. Nightmares can be distressing for many; this blog in no way intends to minimise that. Treatment options mentioned won’t be right for everyone. Please reach out to local healthcare providers if youContinue reading “My nightmares are normal. Let me tell you why (and why yours might be too)”

I’m So Sorry to Tell You This, But You Can’t Love People In To Loving You

⚠️ Content warning: discusses domestic abuse I am genuinely so sorry to be writing this. I know, for some reading, they may be holding on to a hope that if they just love someone the “right” way, they will change. It might sound pessimistic, even hopeless for me to say it (I don’t think itContinue reading “I’m So Sorry to Tell You This, But You Can’t Love People In To Loving You”

Unexpected grief: 7 reasons we might feel the loss of someone we never knew

In the days following the death of Queen Elizabeth II, it was no surprise that tens of thousands of people around the UK chose to pay their respects, including those that joined what became affectionately known as The Queue, to see our longest serving monarch lying-in-state. What was surprising for some, was the feeling ofContinue reading “Unexpected grief: 7 reasons we might feel the loss of someone we never knew”

Anger’s not the problem but aggression hurts us all

⚠️ Content warning: This article contains discussion about acts of violent extremism including domestic abuse, and briefly alludes to self-harm. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of an irate customer that’s demanding a refund, snide comments from a stranger on the internet, or even a toddler “throwing a tantrum”, you might think whatContinue reading “Anger’s not the problem but aggression hurts us all”

Is empathy being lost? Here’s what we could do about it

⚠️ Note to the reader: this article briefly discusses male violence against women, hate speech and bereavement, and is a general discussion on empathy. It is not intended to minimise how challenging it can be for some people to express it. There’s now a thing called Empathy Day. Whilst we can acknowledge with any ‘AwarenessContinue reading “Is empathy being lost? Here’s what we could do about it”

I had such a weird dream last night: night-time adventures to infinity and beyond

Not many people can probably say they’ve pushed Vin Diesel in a shopping trolley. Although I can; except I haven’t. Confused? That’s dreams in a nutshell.

The loneliness of grief and why I think we need to talk about it

⚠️ Content warning: This article is a discussion around death, dying, loss and bereavement. When we talk about loneliness, we might think about the number of friends we have, or how much time we spend alone. Many people can relate to going days without speaking to a single person; this was almost certainly a realityContinue reading “The loneliness of grief and why I think we need to talk about it”

I wrote a book that talks about grief – so why do I keep on about misogyny? Because it’s all connected

⚠️ Content warning: this article speaks about suicide, and male violence against women and girls (MVAWG), including sexual assault and domestic abuse. It also contains links to research on male supr emacy which references known ‘actors’ in this arena. I don’t know a single person who hasn’t been touched by loss.  I say that confidentlyContinue reading “I wrote a book that talks about grief – so why do I keep on about misogyny? Because it’s all connected”

It’s not you, it’s them. How society gets in the way of our grief

There are no stages of grief. At least not in the way they’ve been portrayed. A lot of people talk about them like five things on a to-do list, that we have to achieve in order to “finish” grieving: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. But of course, it’s just not that simple. In fact,Continue reading “It’s not you, it’s them. How society gets in the way of our grief”