Author Archives: Delphi Ellis

Training Adults? Let the Ice-Breaker Go

If you’ve joined any of my classes, you’ll know I am passionately against ice breakers these days. Why? Because I am a trauma-informed educator and train adults in a trauma-sensitive way. Image via BBC When you’re in my classroom, my top priority is your safety. I am not there to “push you out of yourContinueContinue reading “Training Adults? Let the Ice-Breaker Go”

My nightmares are normal. Let me tell you why (and why yours might be too)

⚠️ Note to the reader: This article contains references to trauma, triggers, domestic abuse and male violence, and may include some broad descriptions. Nightmares can be distressing for many; this blog in no way intends to minimise that. Treatment options mentioned won’t be right for everyone. Please reach out to local healthcare providers if youContinueContinue reading “My nightmares are normal. Let me tell you why (and why yours might be too)”

Anger’s not the problem but aggression hurts us all

⚠️ Content warning: This article contains discussion about acts of violent extremism including domestic abuse, and briefly alludes to self-harm. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of an irate customer that’s demanding a refund, snide comments from a stranger on the internet, or even a toddler “throwing a tantrum”, you might think whatContinueContinue reading “Anger’s not the problem but aggression hurts us all”

Is empathy being lost? Here’s what we could do about it

⚠️ Note to the reader: this article briefly discusses male violence against women, hate speech and bereavement, and is a general discussion on empathy. It is not intended to minimise how challenging it can be for some people to express it. There’s now a thing called Empathy Day. Whilst we can acknowledge with any ‘AwarenessContinueContinue reading “Is empathy being lost? Here’s what we could do about it”

I had such a weird dream last night: night-time adventures to infinity and beyond

Not many people can probably say they’ve pushed Vin Diesel in a shopping trolley. Although I can; except I haven’t. Confused? That’s dreams in a nutshell.

The loneliness of grief and why I think we need to talk about it

⚠️ Content warning: This article is a discussion around death, dying, loss and bereavement. When we talk about loneliness, we might think about the number of friends we have, or how much time we spend alone. Many people can relate to going days without speaking to a single person; this was almost certainly a realityContinueContinue reading “The loneliness of grief and why I think we need to talk about it”

It’s not you, it’s them. How society gets in the way of our grief

There are no stages of grief. At least not in the way they’ve been portrayed. A lot of people talk about them like five things on a to-do list, that we have to achieve in order to “finish” grieving: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. But of course, it’s just not that simple. In fact,ContinueContinue reading “It’s not you, it’s them. How society gets in the way of our grief”

COVID Dreams

Since the beginning of the Coronavirus outbreak, people have been reporting that they’re remembering more vivid and disturbing dreams. According to the Lyon Neuroscience Centre’s research, our dream recall is up 35%. So what’s going on? Because many of us are working from home, avoiding the morning commute right now, we might be sleeping in aContinueContinue reading “COVID Dreams”

About Delphi

I am a qualified counsellor, well-being trainer and author of Answers In The Dark: Grief, Sleep and How Dreams Can Help You Heal. My community work is aimed at helping people find what I call their ‘mojo’ (purpose or motivation) and get their sparkle back, often during or after a difficult time in their lives.ContinueContinue reading “About Delphi”