The time to grieve

Throughout history and around the world people have mourned the death of their loved ones. It is natural to grieve for someone – or something – you care about.

Unfortunately, over the last century, attempts have been made to explain grieving as a linear process with specific stages. As a result, individuals now worry they are not getting bereavement ‘right’ or fear they are grieving in the ‘wrong’ way.

Family and friends may then start to comment if someone appears not to be ‘getting over’ a loss.  I explain in my book Answers in the Dark, if anything it can feel like you go under it.   I go on to explain that it’s not necessarily time that’s the healer but how you spend it.

The reality is that everyone is different and there is no right way to grieve.

Talking about the loss of someone you love allows you to process what happened and how you feel about it. Sometimes, even when the death is expected, there remain many unanswered questions and having someone to explore those with allows you to accept the loss whilst honouring the memory of that person. In a way, you can remain connected to them but in a way which is helpful – and healthy – to you.  Here are some links that might help.

© Delphi Ellis All rights reserved, updated 2021

Published by Delphi Ellis

Therapeutic counsellor, well-being trainer and author working with grief and mental health, helping people get their sparkle back. Explores dreams on telly. Avid tea drinker. © Delphi Ellis - Helping You Sparkle™ 2006 - 21

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